5 Nigerians Share How They Realised They Were Just a Backup Option

Benching happens when someone gives you attention, intimacy or hope but refuses to commit while keeping other options open. Five Nigerians shared how they discovered they were not the person their love interest truly intended to choose. One man discovered his neighbour’s traditional wedding through her social-media status after months of closeness. Another woman learned that the man encouraging her to consider conversion had married someone else. Others described being kept on standby, having a secret partner hidden from them, or being used as emotional practice before someone pursued another person. Their experiences show how unclear intentions can leave people hurt and blindsided.

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