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I've sat down with some of my OG's lately discussing about life and so many other things In general and one of the biggest mistakes these OG's have told me that they truly regret in life was marrying the wrong women.

Telling me how they lost it all after divorce and how their bitter ex wives would go to any length to tarnish their image almost made me cry. In their words ; Mike Marry right or don't bother marrying at all cause if you marry the wrong woman it's 100 percent gonna affect your life negatively for sure. 

So men pls ensure you marry right , the wrong woman would send you to your early grave , the right woman would make you live longer. In your spirit , in your guts , in your instincts you know the right woman and the wrong ones. 

Life is already tough for a man and marrying the wrong woman would just put you in an early grave , a word is enough for the wise , no too much capping , marry right or dont at all 
peace and love.

Men !! Marry Right Or Do Not Marry At All.

Good morning guys, Happy New month

I saw this online and I decided to post it ...

Some male teachers are fond of this especially in public secondary schools. Their pervertic nature caused this. Imagine someone didn't greet you properly means you will go to the extent of assaulting....this is bad..

Another thing is there is something going on, she may have reject his sexual advance and the teacher vent his anger on her by tearing her cloth...imagine...

I have experience this because when you see a make teacher frawning and always complaining about a Female student, youth Corper, female colleague, you should know is because of their rejection on sexual advance...

That my own opinion...

What do you think ladies ? Share your experience as a serving Corper in Secondary schools ..

Teacher Assault A Female Corper In Kwara State

There is this girl I am dating recently she has a very big ass she is just 20 and I am 30,as expected many guys are chasing her because of her ass and many of them have become her friends,some are her coursemates,some are her neighbors and some are just random guys toasting her but according to her she is dating none of them.these guys have being her friend of before I even knew her,as we are just 2 weeks into the relationship my plan is to first knack her now that the chemistry is hot and then make rules on how the relationship will be run,and one of the rules is that she will cut off from those male friends because I know their intentions which is to knack her and clean mouth.
but since I am matured I want a lady to settle with in a few years from now so I am giving every girl that comes into my life a chance to see if things will work out between us and I intend giving this one the chance but first I the jealous type I don't like guys touching my girl anyhow

Should I Tell Her To Cutoff Her Male Friends?

Lost In Love

(2024)

This story was adapted from the story titled Lost in Lust with permission from the writer.
The storylines are not the same.

The time must be about four a.m. I normally woke up about that time to ease myself in the toilet. This morning was no exception. I found my way out of the room I shared with David in the boys’ quarter. The toilet was adjoining the room, and it was just about five meters away.

I found my way to the place. I only wanted to urinate, but somehow, I felt some pressure from the bowel, so I sat on the toilet seat. I was on it for some minutes, but funny enough, no 'poo poo' came out. I was about to stand up and wear up my boxer when I felt I could hear a movement outside the toilet.

Then, there was a short knock. That must be David, I thought.

'Just a minute,' I said. I wore my boxer and flushed the toilet. I then opened the toilet door. The sight I saw shocked me.

David was not the one at the door. It was Bimbo, a cousin to my uncle's wife. She had a room in the main building of the duplex house, so I wondered why she had come to the toilet in the bq.

But I didn't wonder for long. The way she looked said it all. Apart from the coqquettish smile on her face, the oversize t-shirt she was wearing clearly defined her voluptous boobs. She put her hand at akimbo and there was something daring about her look.
'What do you want here?' I asked in a voice scarcely above a whisper.

She put a finger on my lips to hush me and smiled. She then gently pushed me back inside the toilet and closed the door.

She locked the latch of the door and turned to face me, smiling.

'What do you think you're doing, Bimbo?' I managed to ask. 

She had never done anything close to this before. We were quite close, but everything had been platonic and within a boundary. I had helped her with some of the assignments given to her in her school. She was an HND student of Business Administration at Yaba College of Technology. 

Many times, she had brought assignments on Business Mathematics home and I had helped her to solve them, having studied mechanical engineering myself. I had even pointed out that the calculations were not difficult and she should be able to solve them.

'I don't like calculations,' she had declared. I had had no choice than to oblige her.

In spite of the seeming coziness, my relationship with Bimbo did not go beyond that level. That explained why I was surprised by this her daring action. 

She did not answer me. Rather, she smiled and closed her eyes. What did that mean?
It was not as if I was naive. I had asked her that to be sure that she very much knew what she was doing. Now, her silent answer was enough for me to hear her loud and clear.

I nodded and smiled to myself. 'No way, Bimbo,' I said under my breath. 'I will not fall for this.'

With sheer willpower, I refused to fall for the lust of the flesh.

I unhooked the latch, opened the door and left the place.

I went back to my room.

Lost In Love

A young Nigerian man shares his frustration over an awkward first date experience with a lady who ordered herself food, neglecting him.

In an anonymous post to popular X influencer @wizarab10, he recounted how the lady’s actions left him feeling overlooked.

The man revealed that the woman paid for her transportation and clothing expenses for the outing, which he appreciated. However, things took a surprising turn when she ordered food only for herself during the date.

“I went on a date with a girl, our very first date and she paid for her clothings and transport. When we got there, we spoke for over an hour and she was listening though. Then, she suddenly called the waiter and ordered meat pie and ice cream for herself and she was eating and listening to me. Isn’t that callous? She didn’t even ask me whether I’m hungry, she just ate, listened and replied me,” he wrote.

He concluded the post by asking followers for advice on whether he should continue pursuing the relationship, humorously adding, “Should I fling?”

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Man Calls Out Lady For Buying Food And Eating It Alone On First Date

I met a guy, we exchanged numbers and started talking, on our first date, just on the road to where we can have a lunch, guy was just so rude, he finds every little opportunity to insult any car or trycycle that drives anyhow or blocks his way.
He over reacts at everything, I will just laugh at some and some I will calm him down.
I overlooked the attitude that day thinking maybe he had a bad day, but on our 2nd meeting, he did same thing again. 
The annoying part is that he didn't see anything wrong in doing that, he sees it as a normal thing.🤦No remorse. 

Omo after that day I ex him sharperly, mek e no come reach my turn one day, e fit even turn to beating😂
I cannot come and die because I see man wey get big car😂

I pay attention to signs.

Some Guys Think Because They Have Car, Every Girl Will Take Their Behaviour

Why am I here, I really don’t like the fact my life revolves around man made papers called money, I’m really ashamed that I’ve to pray to God for man made paper, I’m really ashamed that I’ve to thank God for getting man made paper, from crying out of my mother’s womb to crawling to becoming a man, it was all centered on making money! It cost 8million dollars to make a single replica human robot, and it was yet to be perfected, it means 8million dollars couldn’t make me, it means I’m more to than just chasing papers, what then it is?

I’m Yet To Find My Purpose

Women by nature are very manipulative. For ages women have used various weapons to bring great men up or down including the likes of, Solomon, Samson and the rest. 
However, studies have shown that women possess these tactics when they're faced with challenges and in most cases comes out victorious in such situations.

1. The emotional victim trap

She has mastered the art of emotional manipulation by positioning herself as the perpetual victim. 

Every argument, every disagreement - somehow it always comes back to her pain, her suffering, and how you're responsible for it. It's a subtle but powerful tactic that plays on your empathy. 

She knows that by presenting herself as the innocent party, you'll feel guilty enough to give in to her demands or neglect your own feelings. It's a method designed to handcuff you emotionally and make you doubt your actions while she quietly pulls the strings.

What makes this tactic so effective is the way she encourages you to become her emotional guardian. She doesn't need to ask you directly to do things for her; instead, she creates a narrative in which you feel obliged to meet her needs because she's been through so much. 

You become the fixer, constantly trying to repair her emotional state while she sits back and reaps the benefits. This is manipulation, but it disguises it as vulnerability, making it hard to spot unless you're really paying attention.

2. The silent treatment

Sometimes the most powerful words are the ones you don't say. Women who use the silent treatment know exactly what they're doing. 

By ceasing to communicate with you and leaving you in the dark, they create a psychological storm that leaves you uncomfortable, uncertain and desperate for a solution. 

This tactic plays on your natural desire for harmony and stability in relationships. When she falls silent, you begin to question yourself, rethinking every conversation, wondering where you went wrong.

It's a deliberate maneuver to take control without uttering a single word. This silence can last for hours, even days, until you go back, trying to make things right - and that's exactly what she wants. 

The more you try to bridge the gap, the more she takes control of the situation. It's all about making you uncomfortable enough to come to her on her terms, even if she's the one who caused the problem in the first place. 

You may not realize it, but during these periods of silence, she's waiting for you to take the lead, knowing that every second of silence erodes your trust.

3. The gaslighting technique

Gaslighting is one of the most insidious tactics of manipulation. It involves making you doubt your own reality, your own perceptions.

She distorts conversations, denies what she has said and manipulates situations so that you question your memory and judgment. You'll begin to wonder if you're the one who's crazy, even though you know deep down that something doesn't add up. 

This tactic makes you constantly doubt yourself, which gives it the edge in every situation, because you're no longer sure what's real and what's not. 

The intelligence of gaslighting lies in its subtlety. It doesn't need to lie overtly; it just needs to sow enough doubt. 

It's in the little comments, the shrugging conversations, the way she brushes off your concerns as if they weren't important. 

Over time, these little manipulations build up until you're questioning your own sanity, and that's when she wins. Once you've lost confidence in your own mind, she can dictate the reality of the relationship, spinning things in her favor while you struggle to make sense of it all. 

You'll end up apologizing for things you didn't even do, or accepting blame for situations you know weren't your fault. 

This is the ultimate goal of gaslighting: to make you doubt yourself to the point of ceding control to it, while believing that it's you who's at fault.

The longer the situation goes on, the harder it is to untangle the web of lies and regain your self-esteem.

4. Manipulating your social circle

A woman who knows how to manipulate will use your social circle against you. 

She'll subtly sow doubt and discontent among your friends, family or colleagues, leading them to question your decisions, your character or even your relationship. 

She may do this under the guise of worry or concern, but her aim is to isolate you from people who might support or validate your point of view. 

By sowing discord in your network, she weakens your support system, making you more dependent on her for approval and affirmation. 

She often starts in small ways: mentioning to your friend that you're distant, or hinting to your family that she's worried about your behavior. 

It's all done with a smile and a soft voice, but the implications are powerful. Over time, you'll notice that your loved ones start to treat you differently, question your decisions, even side with her in times of conflict. And the worst part? 

You may not realize it until it's too late, because his manipulation is so subtle, so well disguised, that it goes unnoticed.

5. The damsel in distress power play

The damsel in distress routine isn't about helplessness, it's about power. Women who use this tactic know that by appearing vulnerable and in need of rescuing, they can trigger your protective instincts.

You rush to help her, to solve her problems and, in doing so, you become more invested in her. The more you invest in her, the more weight she carries.

It's a classic manipulative tactic that plays on your desire to be the hero, but what you may not realize is that she's orchestrating the whole scenario to her advantage. Every time you rescue her, whether from a financial problem, an emotional crisis or a conflict with someone else, you're not just helping her; you're deepening your emotional and psychological ties with her, and she knows it. 

The more you help her, the more you feel responsible for her well-being.

She's not just playing the victim; she's reinforcing your role as savior and making sure you come back, even if it's at your expense.

6. "You're overreacting" rejection.

This is a classic deflection tactic used to invalidate your feelings and prevent you from addressing the real issues. When you express your concerns or frustrations, she's quick to put a stop to them by saying you're overreacting or being too sensitive. 

The aim is to make you doubt your own emotional reactions, forcing you to repress your feelings to avoid conflict.

This keeps the relationship on its terms, as your feelings are never fully acknowledged or taken into account.

Over time, this tactic can give you the impression that your emotions don't matter. 

You begin to internalize the idea that your concerns are irrational and stop bringing them up.

This not only gives him greater control over the dynamics of the relationship, but also allows him to silence you, ensuring that any problems are swept under the carpet before they disrupt his control. 

The longer this goes on, the more power she has over your emotional state. You're trained to minimize your own feelings and prioritize hers, even when your concerns are valid.

It's a slow erosion of your emotional autonomy and, by the time you realize it, you're already immersed in a cycle of manipulation where her feelings take precedence over everything else.

6 MANIPULATIVE Tactics Women Use To CONTROL You

In your first few years of marriage or even during your courtship, your spouse or wife will try to dominate and control you.

Yes! Thats the nature of women. You might say not all of them but some of them are subtle in their approach while some are aggressive.

Depending on the kind of man you are and on your temperament. You wife or girlfriend is always on the look out for your every weak point. She is always on defensive mode to ensure she has tools to manipulate and defend herself against you when her negative female nature kicks in.

Please theres a difference between being corrected and advised and being controlled because i have noticed that redpillers jump at any opportunity that looks like this to justify their bad behavior. Listen to your wife’s advice when she is right!

Her attempt to dominate can be trying to control every decisions at home, when its time to make decisions she always want to ensure that her decision should be final. She will also be attempting to set boundaries in the house, and restrict your access to some places in the house at certain times or challenge your every authority.

She might even justify her bad behavior by using traditional roles to establish authority within the relationship. “If you ask her why dont you sweep she will challenge you by saying men and women have hands or if you are broke she would say when you start to provide for me like a man I will start sweeping”.

If her dominating nature is extreme, she will frown her face, she will start to gaslight and throw subtle shades to diminish your ego and make you dance to her tune and sometimes she will act erratic hours or days after her attempt to dominate you failed and you will be confused about what’s going on.

Do not be scared of any attempts she makes or you think she would make. Mind you whatever decision she makes will always benefit you as women can be choking sometimes and times like this when she is pissed and angry will give you space and peace of mind to think as a man.

Caveat: Dont be a big bully. Sometimes give her the chance to do what she likes and correct her once in a while so that she doesn’t resent you.

She Will Try To Dominate You

It’s indeed a privilege that your wife considers you worthy of raising kids she had from cheating on you. Any man should be grateful for such. What if she decided to leave you and go with the other man who’s sleeping with her? Just imagine that…The best you can do as the man here, especially if you’re scared that your wife will sleep with the man again is to go and beg the other man, talk to him, entice him with money, and tell him you’re ready to raise the kids he had with ur wife no matter how many they are. 

Women should never be made to go through stress. The fact that she choose not to have sex with you, her husband, but would rather have it with her besties and still make u train those kids, doesn’t make her any less of a woman, rather it make her a strong woman who’s not afraid of making her own decision.

Reasons Why Men Should Learn To Forgive Their Cheating Wife

First dates can be exciting and nerve-wracking. Whether you're meeting for amala at a local buka or sharing a candlelit dinner in an upscale restaurant, the stakes are high—you want to impress, but you also want to be yourself.

However, there are certain behaviors that can ruin the vibe faster than a failed bank transfer. Here’s a detailed guide on what to avoid on your first date.

1. Don’t Fall for “African Time”

In Nigeria, being late is often joked about as “African Time,” but let’s be real—it’s not a good look. Showing up late without any explanation screams disrespect, especially if your date arrived on time. Whether it's Lagos traffic, a fuel queue, or an unexpected rainstorm, plan ahead to be punctual. If something unavoidable comes up, call ahead to explain. It’s all about courtesy.

2. Don’t Turn the Date into a Therapy Session

Nobody came on a first date to listen to stories about your ex who “ate your money and ghosted you” or how your extended family drama is stressing you out. Oversharing too soon can make your date feel overwhelmed. Instead, keep the gist light and positive. Save the heavy stuff for when you’re more comfortable with each other.

10 Things You Shouldn’t Do On A First Date

Sexual Immorality and an Ugly Society

Sexual immorality (particularly premarital sex, porn and masturbation) has turned many young and brilliant people into a nuisance without purpose and focus in life again. 

Many are now public dogs, STDs carriers, drugs and alcohol addicts, single parents, and the evil devil has brought all form of ugliness into their lives.

The truth is, our society will continue to be an unpleasant one if we keep going contrary to the will of God and embracing immorality. Immorality (like other types of sin) empowers the kingdom of darkness to wreck havoc in our society. 

So, if people fail to go back to God in repentance, then you can expect more headaches in society

The Will of God for sex is that all forms of sexual pleasures should be shared only between a married husband and his female wife inside the safe confines of their marriage institution, with no other party involved.

Anyone who will obey God's instructions can be sure of living a lifestyle that is devoid of the fatal pangs and pains associated with sexual immorality.

Happy New Month of Sexual Purity 🥳🥳

Sexual Immorality And An Ugly Society

We got married in October. 2 days after the marriage my father came into my house and yelled at her that im already a married man. My father wants me to marry someone else. I did not defend her. She cried 3 times in 10 minutes.

She then told me she wants to take a 2 year break until we do a wedding. We did not do a wedding we just went to the goverment office.

What should I do? She told me that shes no longer ready to be married and even before my dad yelled at her she had reservations. 

It has been 1month and she doesnt want me to call her wife anymore. She prefers financE. she is telling her friends that she is engaged.

What should I do?

Wife Told Me She Wants To Take A 1 Year Break

Good day naijaworlders
I don't know if I am to post this here but this would be a long read,but just be patient.

There is this man let's say his name is Peter that joined a particular church but for confidential reasons I won't be mentioning the name of the church.
Mr Peter joined the church ordinarily as a member then,and this church as at the time he joined the church was handled by an elderly man who was the pastor of the church.
The elderly man as at the time was having serious medical problems and his own children were at the time uninterested in the taking after their father. Now the elderly man sensing that he is unable to handle the church, with no body that can reliably handle the church and sensing that he would soon depart called for the council of the church, few at the time and handed the church over to this Mr Peter who prior to the time was a business man and had no pastoral knowledge.
The council agreed and the elderly man later relocated to Lagos where he later died at the age of 70.
Now when Mr Peter took over,who is now the pastor, he with the support of the council carried out some ministerial and innovative works in the church,the church was fledging quite alright, but something later happened.
After taking the mantle of the church, sensing his inexperience, Mr Peter now went to Bible school to acquire pastoral knowledge, and which he did,he now threw his whole self into the work of the ministry that this time it became obvious that his time mostly is spent in church and his work being affected.
His wife at first was okay with it but later started picking offence with the drop in finance because he wasn't being paid and his continuous absence from home to be in church, she started complaining. But what made her more mad is the issue of suspecting that the pastor, her husband is having affair with the prayer warrior women who formed his prayer team though she has no concrete evidence or proofs but just plainly based on suspicion.
Now the issue is that the woman has been moving around from one members house to the other accusing the husband with unfounded rumours, the matter degenerated to a point that she swore to bring the man down or the church, to which a meeting was held to resolve the issue even from ministry and family friends but it was heading nowhere. Now the pastor is devastated,the families are planning that the would meet on the 28 of December to discuss on this. 
There are other things I didn't put up here, but I ask in this case what would you advise this Pastor and his wife.

What Will This Pastor Do?

I messed up my life as a teen. I did not learn anything beneficial. I wasted all that time from age 16 engaging in vices, drinking, and fighting with people.

Now I'm ready to turn a new leaf and live like a decent human being.

But I still have many things to learn that I should have learnt all through those wasted years.

Everyone is looking at me side eyes, like it is time to move out and go to my own apartment.

I just started learning digital marketing and I'm waiting for my final year results to come out to see if I passed or not (I didn't do well during the exams because I was sick)
Please help me. I dont want to be poor

Is 27 Too Late To Turn My Financial Life Around.

The Incels Paradox: How Incels Attack Men Who Stand Up for Women 

Joy Funmilola Oke | November 29, 2024

> Summary: Meghan Markle hosted a launch for a group of Afghan Women in California, a journalist named Nika Shakhnazarova wrote a fake new rage clickbait headline for incels to be racist towards Meghan Markle and her husband, thereby exposing people who are willing to believe such misinformation.

> Incels pages on Twitter have always advocated that a man is a provider, a protector of his family, when a man behaves this way, he becomes respected by his peers and even his wife will love and respect him more. But the moment you are Prince Harry, a man protecting his wife from abuse and providing for her like the man he is “supposedly to be,” you become a simp, a finished man, a betrayal who should have divorced his wife when she was getting abused by the British media, thanks to the influence of the British royal family.

The Incels believe that when a man is in such a position, powerful, with so many women willing to offer themselves to him, then there is no need for him to give up that position for a woman or be responsible, instead, he should get another woman.

In 2019, Prince Harry and Meghan tied the knot, and since then, there has been a lot of dissatisfaction with Prince Harry’s choice of partner. It was believed that a prince of such calibre should get married to a white, blonde, blue-eyed, virgin woman, not a woman who is older than Prince Harry, divorced, and mixed with black. So many people are of the opinion that the marriage is not going to last and that Meghan elevated her status just to get married into the royal family. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s 2024, and people are still waiting for the duo’s announcement of divorce.

On Nov. 25, the New York Post posted on Twitter, “Meghan Markle releases statement after solo Thanksgiving appearance amid professional separation from Prince Harry.”

These media posts have sparked and exposed a lot of problems and, most importantly, elicited a range of bile from Incels, derangers who, in this context, are mostly men.

The first problem with such a post is how writers like Nicole Shakhnazaova worded such a headline in a sly manner, knowing fully well that many men would not open the article.

The headline was a rage bait to elicit vile responses from men who were not happy with Prince Harry for making a decision to protect his wife and child by leaving the UK. This action has got on the nerves of so many Incels who are of the opinion that a man should never leave his heritage, country and position for a woman. For a man to be in such a position, he must protect that position with his life; after all, that was the position that got women interested in him in the first place. There is no need to protect such a woman, with such a position, he can get any woman that he wants.

Even when a lot of people explained it was rage bait and that Meghan only attended an event without Harry, Meghan never made such a statement and that it was a sensational clickbait to rile them up, these Incels in question doubled down explaining how since Meghan has finished using Harry to elevate her status and divorced him because she has no use for him.

Another problem is how journalists today get people to read their articles, which have to go sensational and don’t care about the impact and consequences of such behaviour. Meghan had hosted a group of Afghan women, and the writer knew if she had posted such news, it would not go viral, hence the headline’s wording and, most importantly, to get men to blame pile and be racist towards Meghan Markle.

One such Twitter post, “Harry married an old divorced woman, just give up his birthright, heritage and generational wealth.” The generational wealth in question is wealth that was stolen and exploited from former British colonies. This means they don’t have a problem with racism as long as they are at the receiving end.

Another said, “She is a racist prostitute who made Harry give up his family for her.”

Mind you, Meghan gave up an entire career to be with him, but men are always blind to the sacrifices of a woman.

The next problem is how men are willing to hold on to the belief that they are separated. This obnoxious belief stems from the fact that a man should never give up his crown, which is generational wealth for a woman. According to Spare Harry’s book, there was no generational wealth, especially if you were the spare, and as a spare, he should behave like a spare, with no access to living in palaces except when it’s time to go for a representing the crown.

Hence, the contradiction: if a man should not give up his crown or wealth to protect his woman, there is no crown or wealth, men just tell themselves these lies because they have a delusion and reverence for men in power, and they then preach a man is a protector and a provider, this goes to show how skewed and narrowed this thought process is.

On a normal day, Prince Harry should be applauded for protecting his wife and child from the harm perpetuated by his family, but instead, he gets scolded and vilified. This further proves that men believe that a man who comes from wealth, even though as a spare he doesn’t have access to such wealth, should never give it up for appearance’s sake or to save face.

Another problem, this sensational post has become a cautionary tale by Incels to their followers that never leave your family of wealth to protect your wife and child from harm. Despite the community notes and a lot of people saying it’s fake news and made-up speculation, Incels are holding on to the headline because they just want a gotcha moment where they can say I knew she was the wrong woman, I knew the marriage was never going to last.

Harry has been abused for protecting his wife; men would rather have respect for other men when he is a rapist, cheat, or an abuser than see a man love his woman and protect his wife from committing suicide. Wanting Harry to divorce his woman just to say I said it— so disturbing.

It can be seen that the purpose of such a headline is for men to pile on Meghan and blame her for Harry making a decision as a man. One can’t help but think, if a man in his delusional state cannot protect his wife and child with wealth that has nothing to do with his name, why teach men they must be protectors and providers and, in turn, berate anyone who follows such teachings?

The Incels Paradox: How Incels Attack Men Who Stand Up For Women

Dear naijaworlders,
Abeg make una shoke mouth for this marraz o.
See eehn , back a' days when mehn' been just day on a ko'rim level,
I mean like Koko ko, like ,nothing gum person pikin pocket. I noticed I used to call my friends and family on phone a lot. Not necessarily to ask for assistance, but just to hear from them and see how they are doing.
Infact I had some I call on every beginning of a new week, month or year, and those I call like everyday .
In fact I was known as the "glue that held the family together" . This is because I literally had every family member's contact on my phone. So if anyone had issues reaching anyone, I was the go-to guy.
Fast forward to today, mehn, times have changed mehn.
I barely call anyone in fact the only time I recharge is to sub my phone data .
Infact, them don complain tire,

You no dey like call person ?
What's happening to you?
Why you no dey return calls?
Omo the questions plenty, no be lie.
I don tire sef, th but the truth of the marraz be say I don't do it intentionally,
I don't know mehn I just slowly lost the appetite to call anyone.
Az'in , aside business calls, forget am I no they call anybody.
I do tell them that it's because I'm always bust. Which is true in a sense, but, 
They always argue that, if someone is important to you enough, you must always find a way to call them.

Which begs the question,
"Is this a phycological problem?"
If so , are there other people here who are experiencing same issues?

Have Ever Gone Through Detachment ?

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November(as at today)

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Av got certain enemies that always accuse me on this 4rum

Av had people attacking me and accusing me baselessly offline too

What sort of horrible world is this and why are they expecting my death? Why do they want me to die?

Why do they believe they have the right to say all sort of defamatory shit against me?

Why do they believe they can threaten to attack or attack my parents/siblings anytime they want as well?

How has the law being able to protect me from these problems that occur in human form?

Should I not have a small knife at least 4 self defense in case they try to lynch me?

should I not be ready to kill at least one of those bast@rds if I must be ready to die?

if your mother did not teach you how to mind your business ,please learn it from a donkey or a baboon,

i'm sick of people commenting as if their brains were formed in a ditch/soakaway/sewage .

How 2024 Has Been For Me

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Real Talk: You Gotta Balance the Game 💬

One thing is clear—if you want access to a lot of ladies, you can’t just go full-on hard guy. You have to simp/hard in balance. Being completely “alpha” or unemotional isn’t gonna cut it.

You can still chase. You can still double-text. You can call that girl multiple times and still maintain your assertiveness. It doesn’t make you weak—it shows effort.

Here’s the truth:

If you’re forming “alpha male” all the time, you’re gonna miss out.
Looks aren’t everything; it’s personality that does most of the work.
Unless you’ve got some extraordinary vibe or charm, being unnecessarily hard will cost you.
Stop following these online templates or “manuals” that make relationships robotic. Be real, be balanced, and know when to push and when to pull. That’s how you avoid losing girls unnecessarily.

REAL LIFE FACT

The Truth About Attracting Women

People-pleasing to avoid criticism may provide temporary relief, but it often leads to deeper challenges. Here's why it might not be ideal:

1. Loss of Authenticity: Constantly prioritizing others' approval can disconnect you from your true desires and values, making it harder to feel fulfilled.

2. Resentment Build-Up: Suppressing your own needs to satisfy others can lead to frustration and resentment over time.

3.Dependence on Validation: 
Relying on external approval can make you overly sensitive to criticism and limit your personal growth.

4. Reduced Respect: Over-pleasing might make others take you for granted or undermine their respect for your boundaries.

Alternative Approach

Instead of aiming to please everyone, focus on:

Setting Boundaries: Respectfully say no when needed. It's okay to prioritize your well-being.

Building Confidence: Accept that not everyone will agree with or like you, and that's normal.

Handling Criticism Constructively: Learn from valid feedback without letting it define you.

It's better to be respected for being genuine than liked for being overly accommodating.

If You Please People To Avoid Criticism You Need To See This

Good afternoon everyone, I pray you can offer some good advice on an issue bothering me. I've been in a relationship with a lady I care deeply about for months now, and we intend doing our introduction this month. However, I've noticed some behaviors that are causing me concern.
She stays in touch frequently with her exes, including one named Attah, who frequently sends her love messages. In fact, they call each other on a daily basis, yet she claims nothing is between them. Although she deletes these messages and uses disappearing chats on all of her chats, I'm uneasy about her communication with them. Whenever I complained she would tell me I am insecure. I've addressed this issue with her multiple times ( more than ten times), but she keeps calling and chatting with them citing the fact that her exes are not enemies.
Another issue that bothers me is a text conversation I saw between her and her cousin. The cousin advised her to collect money from four different guys (total strangers) before allowing anything to happen between them. She apologized and attributed this to her past, and I chose to forgive her due to my love for her.
Furthermore, there's a guy who's currently asking her out, and she allows him to visit her. She even calls him and demands favors from him. I have asked her to seize communication with him yet she persists and this morning, I mistakenly saw a new month text from the guy referring to her as my love. I've reported my concerns to her mother and she advised her but unfortunately, there's been no change.
I love her so much, but the red flags are giving me concern. I'm torn between my feelings and the uncertainty surrounding our relationship. Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

Moderators Please Push To Front Page. I Need Your Advice On This Serious Issue

A man has shared footage online showing himself unlocking what he claims are 'evil padlocks' discovered deep in a bush. According to him, the padlocks were allegedly used for spiritual purposes to bind people's destinies, hindering their progress and freedom. 

The man explained that he found a large collection of padlocks and keys stuffed inside a red polythene bag in a secluded area. Taking it upon himself, he has been unlocking them one by one. While many padlocks opened effortlessly, he noted that some were exceptionally stubborn, as though resisting his efforts.

In the viral footage, he boldly declared that his actions were liberating victims from spiritual bondage, allowing them to reclaim their freedom and destiny.

The video has sparked mixed reactions online. Some hailed him as a spiritual hero, praising his intervention, while others expressed skepticism, doubting the authenticity of his claims.

Man Found And Unlocks Evil Padlocks Used To Lock People's Destinies

A friend of mine asked me to burrow him money. He told me that he was going through a lot. With the little I have i just dash him a reasonable amount, i told me there is no need for him to pay me back at all . 
A week or 2 passed, he asked for another loan. I told him if i have i will give. I am not rich at all and just surviving. Next thing i know. He is calling me or texting me. Now everyday he keep texting and calling. I had to block him for sanity. How do you handle such peeps? I know i am not the only one going through this.

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