In many Nigerian homes, hearing “my sister is abroad” sparks instant pride. We assume they have endless money and comfort. We forget they face rent, bills, and survival jobs too.

Social media and returnee visits show only the highlights. We rarely see the sleepless nights or the pinch of high taxes and living costs. Yet the myth of easy cash abroad persists.

Families treat that one overseas relative as an ATM. They expect houses, school fees, and constant handouts. This entitlement mindset turns love into obligation.

Let’s change our questions from “What can you send?” to “How are you doing?” Our brothers and sisters abroad need understanding, not more pressure.

Why Nigerians Expect So Much From Relatives Abroad

The Real Reason Nigerians Demand So Much from Relatives Abroad

Managing your home in today’s economy can be tough with food and household prices climbing every week. These five simple tips can help you stretch your naira and ease financial stress.

First, always shop with a plan. Write down a clear budget and stick to a list to avoid impulse buys. Second, buy staples like rice, beans and tomatoes in bulk when prices are lower. This saves money and cuts down on market trips.

Third, choose budget-friendly yet nutritious substitutes—think potatoes instead of yams or reusable cloth nappies over disposables. Fourth, consider a small side hustle or new skill to boost your income. Finally, focus on your own family’s needs and avoid comparing your lifestyle with others. Share your best money-saving tip below!

Tips For Mothers On How To Survive This Harsh Nigerian Economy

Smart Budget Tips for Nigerian Mothers Facing Rising Costs

Remember when moms and dads were the experts—teaching us to ride bikes or cook our first meal? Fast forward to 2025, and it feels like the tables have turned. Now our kids are leading the way on everything from the hottest apps to Gen Z slang and TikTok dances.

Just last week, a friend’s 12-year-old walked her through setting up a WhatsApp group chat. And my nephew calmly coached his dad on how to unmute in Zoom. Suddenly, our children are the household IT support, social media gurus, and cultural guides!

What’s the funniest thing your child (or a kid you know) has taught a parent recently? Are parents officially the trainees now, or is there still hope for us to catch up? Share your stories!

When Did Kids Become The Teachers? Parents As Trainees In 2025!

Kids as Tech Tutors: When Did Parents Become the Students in 2025?

Mrs. Folakemi Adebayo caused a scene at the Akure Customary Court this week. She accused her ex-husband, Emmanuel Oyebanji, of secretly marrying the lawyer who handled their divorce.

Folakemi claimed the lawyer pretended to be neutral but began a relationship with Emmanuel during the legal process. She said this betrayal skewed her divorce settlement.

Emmanuel denied the allegations. He stated the affair began only after the divorce and said his ex-wife abandoned him.

The lawyer also rejected any misconduct. Judge Ireti Sunday ruled there was no evidence of conspiracy and refused to reopen the case.

Drama In Akure Court As Woman Accuses Ex-husband Of Marrying Divorce Lawyer

Courtroom Storm: Woman Alleges Ex-Husband Married Her Divorce Lawyer in Akure

My elder sister lent her phone to our neighbor’s son for his BECE exam. His mother promised she would return it after the exam. In the meantime, my cousin’s little kids have been using it for cartoons and movies.

When my sister came home on Friday evening, she found the phone with the children. She shouted at my cousin sister in front of everyone. My cousin sister cried all night after being insulted and felt like a burden.

Now two weeks have passed and no one has returned the phone. The neighbor only brings food items to the house. My cousin sister is worried about work, and my sister threatens to take stronger measures next time.

How can we retrieve the phone peacefully without making the conflict worse?

How Should She Go About It

How Can We Get Back the Phone Lent for the BECE Exam?

Happy Birthday, Mom! Today we celebrate your strength, grace, and endless devotion. You are the heart of our family and our constant source of joy.

Thank you for believing in us, cheering us on, and lifting us up through every season of life. Your warm hugs and wise words guide us and give us courage.

On your special day, I wish you all the love, laughter, and blessings you deserve. May your year be filled with peace and happiness. We love you more than words can express.

Bayelsa Female Welder Faith Lesley Celebrate Mother On Her Birthday

Bayelsa’s Trailblazing Female Welder Faith Lesley Celebrates Mom’s Birthday

I don’t want my situation to worsen. That’s why I’m considering joining a fraternity.

I’m not responsible for my parents’ financial struggles. No one showed them or me how to break free from repeated money problems. Other relatives are effectively absent in my life.

I feel unstable and restless because of these circumstances. I lack a stable home and face constant financial setbacks.

I believe a fraternity could understand me and help me overcome these challenges. I’m unsure what else to do.

I Have Reasons To Join A Fraternity

Why I Want to Join a Fraternity: Seeking Support and Stability

I’m half Nigerian and half European, living in Europe. Over the years I’ve watched my Nigerian relatives—especially on my dad’s side—constantly ask him for cash. Cousins I’ve never met act entitled to his income, and when he couldn’t send money, one even said, “Well I don’t want to know your kids then.”

What hurts most is that my dad never supported me growing up. I put myself through school alone, yet he takes credit for my success and brags to relatives who only noticed me once I succeeded. He sends 95% of his earnings back home, builds a mansion in Nigeria, and now expects me to support him in retirement—despite leaving me with no legacy.

This upward flow of wealth keeps generational poverty alive in parts of Africa. My European family never asks for money; our bonds feel genuine. I’ve decided to break this cycle and invest in my own future children instead. Has anyone in the diaspora faced something similar?

Why Do African Family Members Expect Money From People Abroad?

I heard from the lady involved that her ex-fiancé’s mother refused to bless their marriage because the fiancée is a single mum. According to her, the mother worries that marrying a woman with a child brings complications for her son.

From what I’ve seen, many single mothers face suspicion from in-laws who fear manipulation. The woman in my area believes there’s always a hidden agenda when a single mum gets engaged again.

I can’t help but wonder if all single mothers learn these manipulative tactics somewhere. Every single mum I’ve met seems to use similar methods to convince men to marry them.

Single Mum Stops Her Son Marriage To A Lady Cos She's A Single Mother

Why a Mother Blocked Her Son’s Wedding to a Single Mum

On July 18, 2025, Ambassador Bianca Odumegwu Ojukwu shared a series of photos on Facebook. The images show her aboard a private yacht in a chic swimsuit.

She spent quality time with her eldest son, Nwanchukwu. The serene sea breeze and calm waters set a peaceful scene.

Followers praised the affectionate bond between mother and son. Many applauded her ability to balance a demanding public role with close family ties.

The post reminded fans of the importance of cherishing family moments, even amid busy national duties.

Bianca Ojukwu Wears Swimsuit, Spends Quality Time With Her Oldest Son Nwanchukwu

Bianca Ojukwu Flaunts Chic Swimsuit During Yacht Getaway With Son Nwanchukwu

Obasi Emmanuel, who calls himself Pastor Emmanuel, has spoken out in a heartfelt video about being cut off from his three children for over a decade. He says he and Nollywood actress Judy Austin were legally married and blessed with kids. 

“For over 10 years now, I have not laid my eyes on my children,” he says, adding that Judy disappeared with them and has kept them hidden ever since. He fears for their wellbeing, noting that Judy freely shares pictures of her children with actor Yul Edochie but never shows any of his own.

He also alleges attempts were made to silence him with bribes. His emotional plea has sparked public outcry and calls for authorities to clarify the children’s whereabouts and welfare.

Ending the video, he begs, “I’m begging people of good conscience, women of God, to help me. Please help me see my children.”

I Haven’t Seen My Children In 10 Years

Pastor Emmanuel’s 10-Year Struggle to See His Children

Do you believe your parents’ financial standing determines how you turn out as an adult? In my view, a family’s wealth opens doors while poverty often brings barriers.

Poor parents may lack connections and resources. When they pass away, their children can be left at the mercy of others. By contrast, children from wealthy families benefit from solid foundations and networks that make many challenges easier to overcome.

I grew up extremely poor. No one on my mother’s side ever owned a car, and only one relative on my father’s side did. I lost my parents early and inherited little more than oversized clothes, a rickety bicycle, and a landline phone. Yet I’ve learned it isn’t the family you’re born into but the family you build that truly shapes your life.

Do Parents' Financial Status Influence One's Adulthood?

How Much Does Your Parents' Wealth Shape Your Future?

You might think that because you go out to work and he is temporarily unemployed, he is idle. In reality, his mind is full of strategies and ideas to support your future.

You are not simply assigning him chores. You are helping him provide for the family until he stands on his feet again. A kind husband will recognize your effort and step up when you need rest.

He is the provider and leader of the household, not a chore assistant. When you scold or curse at him, he may withdraw his support. If you leave in frustration, your children lose their father’s care.

A thoughtful husband senses your stress and may do chores out of love. But persistent disrespect causes him to pull back. And if you walk away, he may move on before you can return.

Women, Your Husband Is The Head Of The Family Not Your Assistant

Why Your Husband Is the Head of the Family, Not Your Helper

Every weekend, I visit my parents and buy fruit for my mom. No matter how much I spend, she always insists on feeding me before I leave.

I used to wonder why she does this. Over time, I realized it’s pure, unconditional love. It doesn’t matter how wealthy you become or what’s happening in the world—your mom will always make sure you have food.

That simple act shows just how deep a mother’s care can be.

Why Are Mothers Like This?

My Mom’s Unconditional Love: Always Making Sure I’m Fed

As a child, I felt surrounded by love. My aunties, uncles, and cousins made life feel full. But as we grew older, that love began to fade. I forgot how to love and slipped into survival mode.

Recently, a Praise Fowowe video asked: “What story will your children tell about your family?” That question has stayed with me. In the storm I face now, it gave me clarity and peace.

I want my children to say: “We do not know fear.” Fear has broken so many African homes. Today, I vow no more fear in my heart, my house, or my lineage. I choose courage, love, and a sound mind.

Rooted in 2 Timothy 1:7, I reclaim our ordained place in God. I will break the cycle of fear and teach my family to live boldly, faithfully, and fully. That is the legacy I want them to share.

What Story Will Your Children Tell About Your Family?

The Story I Want My Children to Tell About Our Family

The Alese brothers, Gbenga Sunday and Tope, have publicly apologised to their half-siblings, Mosunmola Gbadebo and Femi Oliver, over a malicious media report. They said the story was never intended to malign anyone and regretted that a private matter went public.

On June 13, 2025, two online platforms ran a report accusing Mosunmola of hiring hitmen to kill her siblings over their late mother’s property. The false accusations led to arrests, police investigations, and family discord.

Mosunmola described the claims as defamatory and harmful to her reputation. Femi, a pastor, also lamented the damage to his ministry. The brothers blamed enemies for the leak and insisted the dispute was internal.

Family elders have now intervened. The June 13 report has been pulled down. The police warned against sensationalising private disputes. Peace is gradually returning to the family.

Re: Sunday And Tope Alese Apologises To Siblings Mrs. Gbadebo Mosunmola And Femi

Tope and Sunday Alese Apologise to Mosunmola Gbadebo & Femi Oliver Over False Media Report

I’m facing a complex situation with my girlfriend’s unplanned second pregnancy. Doctors have advised against termination due to health risks from her previous C-section. Now we must prepare for another child while navigating our evolving relationship.

We started dating in 2022 and already have one child. Our relationship with her family is strained, which adds pressure. I’m almost 40, she’s 32, and we hadn’t planned to expand our family amid economic uncertainty.

I need guidance on co-parenting arrangements, financial planning strategies, and support systems. Any advice on ensuring the well-being of my partner and our children would be greatly appreciated. I feel confused and overwhelmed.

My Girlfriend Is Pregnant Again !

Unplanned Second Pregnancy: Seeking Co-Parenting and Financial Advice

A Nigerian man recently learned he is not the biological father of his five children. He made the discovery after taking a DNA test 15 years into his marriage.

The incident was shared by @BlessedGirl001 on X (formerly Twitter). She explained that the couple had built a family over 15 years, only for the DNA results to reveal he wasn’t genetically related to any of the children.

She used the story to advise other men to consider paternity testing. “Fifteen years of marriage and you just realize your kids aren’t yours,” she wrote, warning that such fraud is becoming too common.

Man Conducts DNA Test After 15 Years,finds Out He’s Not Father Of His 5 Children

After 15 Years, Man Discovers He’s Not the Biological Father of His Five Children

I used to worry more about having daughters. People said girls would marry, forget their families, or sleep around. But I now believe girls are loyal.  

They help with chores, support aging parents, and stand by the family. In contrast, many boys end up in jail, suffering violence, or causing trouble. It feels like 80 percent of male children bring hardship.  

I still don’t know how I’ve survived. I walk in fear, wondering who might be watching or waiting to harm me. Could male children really be cursed?

Are Male Children Cursed?

Are Male Children a Liability in Our Community?

Managing a custody dispute can be stressful and emotional. You want the best for your child, but certain missteps in court can undermine your case.

This guide uncovers the top seven errors parents make—from speaking negatively about the other parent to misusing social media—and shows you how to steer clear of each one. You’ll learn practical tips on following court orders, keeping your emotions in check, and prioritising your child’s needs.

Follow these strategies, stay organised, and always centre every decision on your child’s well-being. With the right preparation and mindset, you’ll present yourself as a cooperative, responsible parent who deserves the court’s trust.

Top 7 Mistakes To Avoid In A Child Custody Case

Win Your Child Custody Battle: 7 Critical Mistakes to Avoid

Fatherhood is more than biology. Many men today only sow the seed and then walk away. They leave the real work of parenting undone.

In a recent teaching, I called such men “sperm donors.” They abandon their children emotionally and financially. They fail to nurture, guide, or mentor. They show up only when it’s convenient but vanish when they are needed most.

True fatherhood means being present. It means raising godly children. It means leaving a legacy of love and discipline.

What do you think? Are many men failing at true fatherhood? What does it take to be a father beyond biology? Share your thoughts below.

Understanding Fatherhood: Are Many Men Just Sperm Donors?

True Fatherhood: Beyond Just a Sperm Donor

I’ve carried this pain for so long. The universe hasn’t been kind since the day I was born. Each time I see people my age with their parents, I can’t help but weep.

I never knew my own mother or father. I missed out on the love, bond, and support that many of my peers enjoy. I have countless questions about why life turned out this way.

If I ever marry and have children, I pray I’ll live long enough to care for them until they can defend themselves. What does it truly mean to experience fatherly or motherly love? What is a family bond? Why do we say “family is everything?”

Each Time I See People Of My Age With Their Parents, I Weep For Myself

Feeling Lost Without Parents: I Weep When I See My Peers with Their Families

I moved out at 24 to enjoy my freedom. I loved having my own apartment, partying late, dating, and exploring life on my own.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my parents. They’re getting older, and my dad’s compound is huge. It doesn’t make sense to keep paying ₦850k in rent when I could be helping at home.

I want to return fully, marry there, and raise my children in that compound. What do you think about settling back in with your family later in life?

Moving Back To My Parents House At 29

Why I’m Moving Back to My Father’s Compound at 29

I’ve lived in this neighborhood for five years. I don’t have much, but I always help the children with snacks, drinks or clothes. I also give money to their parents, including a widow with five kids.

Now the children shout for money whenever they see me. Their mothers beg me constantly—even when I’m buying my own food or water. One woman borrowed money and sent her son to my door for repayment before sunrise.

My cousins on social media do the same. They call and demand cash. I feel trapped because I can’t say no. I’m tired of being seen as a walking ATM and I fear losing my temper.

How can I set healthy boundaries and still keep the peace?

Help! My Neighbors And Family Members Are Taking Advantage Of My Generosity

How Do I Stop Neighbors and Relatives Exploiting My Kindness?

The West Africa Alternative Care Summit (WAACS) 2025 convened in Jos, Plateau State, to address child care reforms across the region. Organized by the Association of Orphanages and Homes Operators in Nigeria (Northern Region) with the Plateau State Ministry of Women Affairs, the gathering brought together policy leaders, child welfare advocates, and community changemakers.

Mrs. Sandra Chikan, Convener and Chairperson, highlighted the gap in family-based care resources. She noted that thousands of orphans remain in institutional care due to weak policies and limited collaboration. She cited studies showing higher risks of emotional distress and social isolation in institutional settings.

Speakers, including international experts from Hope Institute and Back2Back Haiti, shared best practices. They discussed fostering, adoption, and evidence-based strategies to transition children into stable families. The summit aims to build partnerships for sustainable home-based care models across West Africa.

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