In many Nigerian homes, hearing “my sister is abroad” sparks instant pride. We assume they have endless money and comfort. We forget they face rent, bills, and survival jobs too.

Social media and returnee visits show only the highlights. We rarely see the sleepless nights or the pinch of high taxes and living costs. Yet the myth of easy cash abroad persists.

Families treat that one overseas relative as an ATM. They expect houses, school fees, and constant handouts. This entitlement mindset turns love into obligation.

Let’s change our questions from “What can you send?” to “How are you doing?” Our brothers and sisters abroad need understanding, not more pressure.

Why Nigerians Expect So Much From Relatives Abroad

The Real Reason Nigerians Demand So Much from Relatives Abroad

Hello everyone. I’m a proud new father—my wife and I welcomed our daughter on June 12th.

After I’ve fed her, changed her diaper, and given her a bath, she still cries unless I stand up, hold her close, and walk or dance around. If I try to sit, she cries even harder, especially at midnight when she seems fully awake.

I’m looking for advice from experienced moms and dads. Why does standing and moving calm some babies? Any tips or explanations would be greatly appreciated!

You Stand For The Baby To Stop Crying

Why Does Standing and Pacing Soothe My Crying Newborn?

Happy Birthday, Mom! Today we celebrate your strength, grace, and endless devotion. You are the heart of our family and our constant source of joy.

Thank you for believing in us, cheering us on, and lifting us up through every season of life. Your warm hugs and wise words guide us and give us courage.

On your special day, I wish you all the love, laughter, and blessings you deserve. May your year be filled with peace and happiness. We love you more than words can express.

Bayelsa Female Welder Faith Lesley Celebrate Mother On Her Birthday

Bayelsa’s Trailblazing Female Welder Faith Lesley Celebrates Mom’s Birthday

This post highlights the struggles many Nigerian wives face in unhappy marriages. The author shares how her husband boasts about her strength and endurance, yet treats her poorly and shows little appreciation.

She feels overlooked, especially on her 30th birthday, when her husband only posted a simple birthday message online. This situation has led her to question whether patience and understanding are truly beneficial, or if they only enable bad treatment.

The author reflects on the imbalance in marital happiness, suggesting that some women enjoy their marriages while others suffer silently. She invites others to share their thoughts on this difficult topic.

Understanding Wives Are Suffering, Wicked Wives Are Enjoying.

Are Wives Suffering While Others Are Enjoying? A Reflection on Marital Struggles

Yesterday, I posted that President Buhari was a terrible leader and didn’t deserve our pity. Today, my father, Chibueze Ngene, passed away at our home in Enugu State.

He taught me to read the Bible when I was five and shaped my faith as a Jehovah’s Witness. He dreamed of becoming a lawyer but instead moved to Cross River State at 19 to work under his brother. It was there he met and married my mother.

Nine years ago he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s and underwent deep brain surgery in Turkey last year. He recovered well but four days ago his implant battery failed. He refused another surgery and quietly prepared for his final moments.

My father wasn’t perfect, but he never lied or coveted what others had. He spoke of death with a smile and trusted in God’s promise of resurrection. I will return tomorrow to honor his wishes. Adieu, Dad.

Twitter User Who Mocked Buhari’s Death Yesterday Lost His Father This Morning

After Mocking Buhari, ‘Bitcoin Chief’ Gaius Chibueze Mourns His Father’s Passing

A widow in Anambra State is crying out for help after her in-laws allegedly evicted her and demolished her home without proper court notice. Mrs. Eze-Onwumere Vivian claims her late husband's family is trying to seize her property and deny her and her children their inheritance.

She recounts how her in-laws attempted to sell the land shortly after her husband's death, despite her efforts to block the sale. She also alleges that court judgments were made without her presence or receipt of court papers. Her belongings were reportedly thrown outside in the rain under court supervision, which she disputes.

Mrs. Vivian is now appealing to the state governor for intervention, saying she has been unfairly treated and is seeking justice for her family. Her story highlights issues of land rights, inheritance, and family disputes in Nigeria.

They Threw Me Out In The Rain: Anambra Widow Cries For Help

Anambra Widow Evicted and House Demolished Over Land Dispute

I’m half Nigerian and half European, living in Europe. Over the years I’ve watched my Nigerian relatives—especially on my dad’s side—constantly ask him for cash. Cousins I’ve never met act entitled to his income, and when he couldn’t send money, one even said, “Well I don’t want to know your kids then.”

What hurts most is that my dad never supported me growing up. I put myself through school alone, yet he takes credit for my success and brags to relatives who only noticed me once I succeeded. He sends 95% of his earnings back home, builds a mansion in Nigeria, and now expects me to support him in retirement—despite leaving me with no legacy.

This upward flow of wealth keeps generational poverty alive in parts of Africa. My European family never asks for money; our bonds feel genuine. I’ve decided to break this cycle and invest in my own future children instead. Has anyone in the diaspora faced something similar?

Why Do African Family Members Expect Money From People Abroad?

Obasi Emmanuel, who calls himself Pastor Emmanuel, has spoken out in a heartfelt video about being cut off from his three children for over a decade. He says he and Nollywood actress Judy Austin were legally married and blessed with kids. 

“For over 10 years now, I have not laid my eyes on my children,” he says, adding that Judy disappeared with them and has kept them hidden ever since. He fears for their wellbeing, noting that Judy freely shares pictures of her children with actor Yul Edochie but never shows any of his own.

He also alleges attempts were made to silence him with bribes. His emotional plea has sparked public outcry and calls for authorities to clarify the children’s whereabouts and welfare.

Ending the video, he begs, “I’m begging people of good conscience, women of God, to help me. Please help me see my children.”

I Haven’t Seen My Children In 10 Years

Pastor Emmanuel’s 10-Year Struggle to See His Children

Do you believe your parents’ financial standing determines how you turn out as an adult? In my view, a family’s wealth opens doors while poverty often brings barriers.

Poor parents may lack connections and resources. When they pass away, their children can be left at the mercy of others. By contrast, children from wealthy families benefit from solid foundations and networks that make many challenges easier to overcome.

I grew up extremely poor. No one on my mother’s side ever owned a car, and only one relative on my father’s side did. I lost my parents early and inherited little more than oversized clothes, a rickety bicycle, and a landline phone. Yet I’ve learned it isn’t the family you’re born into but the family you build that truly shapes your life.

Do Parents' Financial Status Influence One's Adulthood?

How Much Does Your Parents' Wealth Shape Your Future?

Family is more than just blood relations; it's about being there for each other during life's challenges. Sometimes, small gestures like listening, offering a warm meal, or simply showing up can make a big difference.

We all face difficult seasons, and no one should have to go through them alone. Helping family members doesn't mean having all the answers; it means choosing love over pride and showing support even when it's inconvenient.

Ultimately, family should be a safe haven, not a battleground. Let's prioritize support, care, and understanding over silence and comparison. True love is shown through actions, every time.

Helping Each Other Is What Family’s For

The Power of Family Support in Tough Times

As a child, I felt surrounded by love. My aunties, uncles, and cousins made life feel full. But as we grew older, that love began to fade. I forgot how to love and slipped into survival mode.

Recently, a Praise Fowowe video asked: “What story will your children tell about your family?” That question has stayed with me. In the storm I face now, it gave me clarity and peace.

I want my children to say: “We do not know fear.” Fear has broken so many African homes. Today, I vow no more fear in my heart, my house, or my lineage. I choose courage, love, and a sound mind.

Rooted in 2 Timothy 1:7, I reclaim our ordained place in God. I will break the cycle of fear and teach my family to live boldly, faithfully, and fully. That is the legacy I want them to share.

What Story Will Your Children Tell About Your Family?

The Story I Want My Children to Tell About Our Family

The Alese brothers, Gbenga Sunday and Tope, have publicly apologised to their half-siblings, Mosunmola Gbadebo and Femi Oliver, over a malicious media report. They said the story was never intended to malign anyone and regretted that a private matter went public.

On June 13, 2025, two online platforms ran a report accusing Mosunmola of hiring hitmen to kill her siblings over their late mother’s property. The false accusations led to arrests, police investigations, and family discord.

Mosunmola described the claims as defamatory and harmful to her reputation. Femi, a pastor, also lamented the damage to his ministry. The brothers blamed enemies for the leak and insisted the dispute was internal.

Family elders have now intervened. The June 13 report has been pulled down. The police warned against sensationalising private disputes. Peace is gradually returning to the family.

Re: Sunday And Tope Alese Apologises To Siblings Mrs. Gbadebo Mosunmola And Femi

Tope and Sunday Alese Apologise to Mosunmola Gbadebo & Femi Oliver Over False Media Report

In the past, landlords in Nigeria rented out their properties without much concern for a tenant's privacy, as long as rent was paid on time. Nowadays, many landlords have become more intrusive, asking about tenants' occupations and personal lives.

Some landlords set strict conditions for tenants, such as preferring specific genders, marital statuses, or occupation types like corps members. Others impose rules like locking gates early, restricting visitors, or demanding two years' rent upfront. These new trends can be quite frustrating for tenants.

Have you experienced any of these landlord behaviors? Share your stories and let’s discuss how these trends are affecting tenants across Nigeria.

Annoying Trends Of Landlords In Nigeria Lately, Share Your Experience

Frustrations with Landlord Trends in Nigeria: Share Your Experiences

If you are planning to get married or just tied the knot, these tips will save you money and stress. I learned them the hard way. They cover everything from health insurance to family meetings.

Start with NHIS health insurance. Register your family early to avoid high hospital bills. Find a reliable doctor and lawyer for emergencies. Hire domestic help if you can. Buy essentials in bulk and pay school fees ahead. Build passive income and choose schools that shape your children’s future. Finally, hold regular family meetings so everyone’s voice is heard.

Try these recommendations and you’ll avoid many headaches. Feel free to add your own tips. Good morning and have a great weekend.

What No One Told Me About Marriage Before I Enter That I Want To Tell You.

9 Things I Wish I Knew Before Getting Married

I’m facing a complex situation with my girlfriend’s unplanned second pregnancy. Doctors have advised against termination due to health risks from her previous C-section. Now we must prepare for another child while navigating our evolving relationship.

We started dating in 2022 and already have one child. Our relationship with her family is strained, which adds pressure. I’m almost 40, she’s 32, and we hadn’t planned to expand our family amid economic uncertainty.

I need guidance on co-parenting arrangements, financial planning strategies, and support systems. Any advice on ensuring the well-being of my partner and our children would be greatly appreciated. I feel confused and overwhelmed.

My Girlfriend Is Pregnant Again !

Unplanned Second Pregnancy: Seeking Co-Parenting and Financial Advice

Hello everyone, I am new here and seeking guidance from the Naijaworld community. I want to understand the process of marriage registration in Nigeria, especially regarding court marriages.

A lady living in Europe has her papers ready but cannot come to Nigeria at the moment. She has a fiancé in Lagos who wants to proceed with their marriage. She’s asking if it’s possible to conduct the marriage without her being physically present and what requirements are needed.

Specifically, can the marriage be successfully carried out at the Ikoyi registry without her presence? What documents and procedures are necessary to ensure everything is completed before the end of the year?

I’ve read some threads here but still need clear guidance. If anyone has first-hand experience or knowledge about this process, please share. Thank you all in advance.

Court Marriage And Marriage Registry.

How to Conduct a Court Marriage Without Physical Presence in Nigeria

I don’t know who to trust anymore. Now that I’ve come of age, memories of my family’s cruelty haunt me.

I faced insults, humiliation, beatings, and abandonment. They threw my bags on the street and left me to survive in the rain and scorching sun.

At 26, I’m finally independent. They reach out now, but I struggle to answer their calls and rebuild trust.

I’ve forgiven them, but forgetting is hard. I pray no parent ever leaves a child in the hands of strangers or treats them as servants.

My Life's Biggest Hurts Have All Come From My Family Members

Overcoming Family Betrayal: My Journey to Healing and Trust

Hello Naijaworlders, I am new here and seeking advice on a serious issue in my marriage. I married my wife as a virgin, and we started our life together happily. Recently, I noticed her becoming increasingly obsessed with sex, which I thought was normal given her high sexual drive.

However, things changed when I observed her acting strangely around a street trader and noticed her spending more time outside. I trusted her innocence because she was a virgin when we married. But during my recent trip, I returned home to find my house locked, and my wife returning late with a male trader she claims tried to have her but she refused. I am confused and hurt, unsure whether to confront her or involve her parents. I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Please help me understand what steps I should take and share your suggestions. I am really lost and need guidance from the community.

My Virgin Wife Now Something Else

Marital Troubles: My Wife's Changing Behavior and Suspected Infidelity

Poor personal hygiene, especially persistent bad odor from the private parts, can negatively affect marital relationships and sexual intimacy. Some men may avoid sex with their wives long-term due to this issue, leading to misunderstandings or suspicions of infidelity.

Women are encouraged to be attentive to their hygiene and address any strange or persistent odors. Maintaining cleanliness can help preserve intimacy and prevent relationship strain. It's important for both singles and married individuals to be aware of their personal hygiene and take necessary steps to stay fresh.

Remember, bad odor can damage character and affect how partners perceive each other. Good hygiene is essential for healthy, respectful relationships.

Bad Smell May End Relationship Or Kill Sex In Marriage

Impact of Personal Hygiene on Marital Relationships and Sexual Intimacy

Managing a custody dispute can be stressful and emotional. You want the best for your child, but certain missteps in court can undermine your case.

This guide uncovers the top seven errors parents make—from speaking negatively about the other parent to misusing social media—and shows you how to steer clear of each one. You’ll learn practical tips on following court orders, keeping your emotions in check, and prioritising your child’s needs.

Follow these strategies, stay organised, and always centre every decision on your child’s well-being. With the right preparation and mindset, you’ll present yourself as a cooperative, responsible parent who deserves the court’s trust.

Top 7 Mistakes To Avoid In A Child Custody Case

Win Your Child Custody Battle: 7 Critical Mistakes to Avoid

I’m a 25-year-old man working in Lagos. My mum and sisters keep complaining that my dad never provides for them. I earn over ₦500K and I’m already planning to set up a shop for my mum and help my sister fresh out of university.

My father still asks me for money, yet he follows a married woman and even pays for her child’s school fees. He curses my sisters and ignores his own. I’ve tried to stay neutral, but it’s draining me.

As the only son and firstborn, I want to support my family without severing respect for my dad. How can I call him to order, set healthy boundaries and protect my mum and sisters?

How Do I Deal With My Father

My Father Neglects His Family: How Can I Step In Without Burning Bridges?

Good evening, everyone. I hope you had a productive day across Nigeria. Whether you're returning from school, work, or relaxing at home, this message is for you.

My name is Michael. Before I continue, I want to share a quote from Frederick Barnet's autobiographical novel. In it, he recounts a fascinating chapter of his life between his nineteenth and twenty-third birthdays. Barnet was not a genius or highly original, but he had a unique talent for storytelling shaped by circumstances.

Sometimes, we need to read, understand, and reflect before making judgments. Let's keep this in mind as we navigate our daily lives and interactions.

Just Read First Then Judge Later

Reflecting Before Judging: A Thoughtful Perspective

Even if you catch your wife in bed with another man, you cannot legally evict her from your home. She is your legal wife, not a servant.

Under the Violence Against Persons Prohibition (VAPP) Act, you must file for separation through the proper legal channels. Forcing her out could lead to up to two years’ imprisonment if she takes action against you.

This law applies to couples married at a registry or in a licensed church. Ignorance of the law is not an excuse.

Even If U Catch Your Wife On Ur Bed With Another Man. You Have No Right To Send

You Can’t Throw Your Wife Out Over Infidelity: Know Your Rights Under the VAPP Act

The West Africa Alternative Care Summit (WAACS) 2025 convened in Jos, Plateau State, to address child care reforms across the region. Organized by the Association of Orphanages and Homes Operators in Nigeria (Northern Region) with the Plateau State Ministry of Women Affairs, the gathering brought together policy leaders, child welfare advocates, and community changemakers.

Mrs. Sandra Chikan, Convener and Chairperson, highlighted the gap in family-based care resources. She noted that thousands of orphans remain in institutional care due to weak policies and limited collaboration. She cited studies showing higher risks of emotional distress and social isolation in institutional settings.

Speakers, including international experts from Hope Institute and Back2Back Haiti, shared best practices. They discussed fostering, adoption, and evidence-based strategies to transition children into stable families. The summit aims to build partnerships for sustainable home-based care models across West Africa.

West Africa Summit Delibrates On Child Reforms

WAACS 2025 Summit in Jos Champions Family-Based Care for West Africa’s Vulnerable Children

Many children grow up feeling unloved by their parents. There are certain signs that can indicate a lack of genuine parental love from the very beginning.

For example, some children have no fond memories or photos with their parents as kids. Others notice their parents show no concern about their wellbeing or how they earn money, as long as they send money back.

Experiences like being hospitalized for a month without a single call or inquiry from parents can be heartbreaking. Additionally, children from polygamous families often feel a lack of love and connection, especially when both parents come from such backgrounds.

Recognizing these signs can help individuals understand their childhood experiences and emotional health better.

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