My Boyfriend Likes It When I Take Charge and Lose My Temper

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. I first noticed something unusual after I got angry with him for forgetting to check food I was cooking. Instead of withdrawing, he became more attentive, and we later had intense make-up sex. He eventually told me that my anger and assertiveness excited him. We agreed to explore a consensual dominance dynamic, where I give firm instructions and he enjoys responding to them. It has become a private part of our relationship and has improved our intimacy. Still, I am careful about boundaries. I do not attack his insecurities, embarrass him in public or use the dynamic as an excuse to avoid healthy communication during real disagreements. The experience has also helped me become more assertive without feeling guilty for not always being the soft, sweet girlfriend.

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