I Like Her, but She Hid Her Sickle Cell Status—What Should I Do?

I am 35 and have recently started seeing a 27-year-old woman I genuinely like. She is intelligent, calm, financially independent, and we have had an unusually peaceful relationship for three months. I am now considering marriage more seriously because my family has also been pressuring me to settle down. She initially told me she was AS and asked whether I could marry someone living with sickle cell disease. I reacted badly, so she later admitted that she is actually SS. I am AA, so our children would not have sickle cell disease, but I had always hoped to have AA children. What hurts me most is that she was not honest from the beginning. I understand that my reaction may have made her afraid to tell me, and I am trying to be fair about that. I care about her deeply, but I have questions about the emotional, medical, and practical realities of building a life with someone living with SS. I also suggested ending our agreement to wait until marriage before becoming intimate, but I now worry that this may look like I am taking advantage of her situation. Am I being unreasonable? Should we speak with a haematologist or genetic counsellor before making any major decisions?

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