My Cousin Learned That Confidence Works Better Than Chasing Approval at a Wedding

At a wedding, my cousin watched me speak to a woman in a way he considered unusually bold. When she said something I disagreed with, I jokingly told her, “Ogbeni, shut up jọ.” She was surprised at first, but the tension quickly turned into laughter and a more relaxed conversation. Later, I told her I was beginning to like her but worried I might break her heart. My cousin could not understand why I would say things that seemed likely to push her away. My point was not to be rude or disrespectful. I was simply not desperate for her approval. Confidence, boundaries and playful honesty can create better conversations than trying too hard to impress someone.

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