I Am Engaged, but Trust Issues and Red Flags Are Making Me Consider Leaving

I am engaged to a 25-year-old woman, and we have already completed introductions with both families. However, recent events have made me question whether this relationship is safe to continue. She still communicates with her ex, and when I raised concerns about boundaries, she only said she would “try” to block them. I also became concerned when she quickly removed my access after I linked her WhatsApp account to my device without her consent. I later used an unknown number to test her response to a stranger. She agreed to meet the person at a bar, and the chat stopped only after intimacy was mentioned alongside money. She has also made comments during intimacy that made me feel she may view relationships in a transactional way. When I raise these concerns, she often dismisses me or avoids serious discussion. I am considering ending the engagement, but I want honest advice: are these genuine warning signs, or am I reacting out of fear and mistrust?

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